Building Your Confidence: The key steps to being more confident

"I have to thank you for helping me to understand that within all of us, there is 'confidence in a slumber'. You have afforded me this privilege to say, "I can do it". In humility, I will soar." Veronica Kemp, South Africa. August 2007.

Are you holding yourself back because you have no confidence or a low self esteem? Take heart, you are not alone and you can gain in confidence. Or maybe you were confident once but life has dealt you some harsh blows and you want to build your self confidence back up again? Confidence need not be lost forever - you can regain your confidence, step by step. Or maybe you are confident in some parts of your life but not in others and you want to feel better about yourself in these areas? You can. Whichever of these applies to you, know this one important thing - everyone I know lacks confidence somewhere in their lives, even those who look super cool and confident can have a worry worm of self doubt lurking inside that they aren't letting you see. The second thing you must know, right from the start, is that confidence is A SKILL that you can learn. Yes! I have seen people learn to be more confident right in front of my eyes. What you may not know, is just how easily many of us undermine our self confidence, and how easily we can turn this around by building our confidence, one step at a time. With just one step you can change your whole direction in life. You wouldn't want to miss out on the opportunity to get more self confidence, would you?

Your first step for rapidly building your confidence There is so much that you can do to be confident - it seems too simple to give just one or two tips ... but building up your confidence can begin with just one step. Here is a VITAL one that can bring you instant improvement. Stop the negative thoughts Negative thoughts kill confidence. Do you know what you say to yourself, about yourself, inside your head? It is probably worse than anything else other people say to you. STOP! What we say to ourselves hurts us. If you tell yourself you will mess up - it doesn't help you, does it? If you tell yourself you are not worth it, you are hurting yourself. If you tell yourself you aren't good enough, you are destroying your own confidence. STOP! YOU CAN HAVE CONTROL OVER WHAT YOU SAY TO YOURSELF. TAKE CONTROL TODAY. You may find it hard to stop. You may want to argue with me ... but this will only be because you have done it so often and for so long it now seems natural. It isn't. DON'T BELIEVE YOURSELF WHEN YOU SAY THINGS THAT KILL YOUR CONFIDENCE. They are not real. It is not the real you. It is simply you doing something you have done a lot of. You can stop today. STOP THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. CHALLENGE THEM. TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE WORTH IT. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. YOU DO DESERVE IT. YOU CAN DO IT. UNTIL THIS KIND OF POSITIVE THINKING BECOMES A HABIT. Of course, it won't seem easy at first - your thoughts will fight you, after all you've probably been saying them to yourself for years ... but you can win through. Just take the first step now. Start practising being confident. If you aren't sure how to do this hear the inspiring women on the Confidence for women in social situations CDs. Three of these women: Helena, Sue and Shahzardi are amazing in how they use positive thinking to stay strong and to be confident, they even use it when things go wrong. Shahzardi, for instance, was in a serious car crash ... and she still counted her blessings. Amazing! Her confidence is strong, yours can be the same. Let them show you how.

Confidence Quotes Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are right. ~ Henry Ford The discovery of the power of our thoughts will prove to be the most important discovery of our time. ~ William James

What is confidence? Here is a definition of confidence for you: Confidence is the ability that a person has to proceed with a task, or life in general without being held back by self-doubts or thoughts of failure, and while having the self-belief that he or she can succeed. ~ Rachel Green, August 2008

Your second vital step for building your confidence Many people who lack confidence worry about what other people think of them. They worry about being rejected. Here is the confidence building news you may not have realized... Focus on the other person not on yourself. When you go and meet strangers and other people - guess who they are worrying about the most? Is it you? No. Who is it? THEMSELVES. Yes! The people you meet are most often worrying about themselves. In fact they may even be worrying about your judging them. It is quite ironical really, isn't it? Think what this means for your own confidence. It means that you can let go of your own worries and self focus. What can you do instead that will improve your confidence? Take the focus off yourself and put it on them. You can focus on them and help them to feel at ease WITH YOU. Help them to find it easy to talk to you. Help them to know what to talk to you about. Look after the other people when you are talking to them and the conversation will be far more relaxed and easy than when you are worrying about yourself. This is a great way to gain confidence. Try it for yourself and see the difference it makes.

Confidence Quotes The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others. ~ Sonya Friedman Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look how we perform, is truly important to other people. ~ Andre Bubus

Why does confidence matter?

There are many other practical ways to help you be more confident. Choose from the following:

1. There are FREE sets of tips to help you build your confidence and improve your self esteem. Seven low cost ways to increase your self-esteem, by Rachel Green. How to look more confident, by Rachel Green. How to re-build your self-confidence after a divorce, by Rachel Green. How to sound confident when public speaking, by Rachel Green. How to be taken seriously and win respect, by Rachel Green. CONFIDENCE - Ten steps for developing more confidence in everyday life, by Rachel Green. Seven easy ways to stop feeling inadequate, by Rachel Green. Click here to view the full list.

2. There is a unique 2 CD set to help you build your self confidence and overcome a loss of confidence in social situations. CONFIDENCE FOR WOMEN In SOCIAL SITUATIONS. A unique 2 CD set where you can hear six women, plus Rachel Green, talking about how they have built and kept their confidence despite difficult times. Some of the women lack confidence in social situations such as parties, networking and making friends, and tell you how this affects them. Others are confident and tell you what they've done to build their confidence and how they maintain it each day and every day. Others have had a traumatic loss of confidence following events such as a divorce or a car accident and they tell you how they've regained their confidence. UNIQUE and INSPIRATIONAL. These women have never been heard before. And, positive? Wow! They inspired Rachel and showed her how she could be even more positive and she was already very positive - but these women had the edge on her. Imagine what they could do for you!

Confidence Quotes Getting ahead in a difficult profession requires .... faith in yourself. That is why some people with mediocre talent, but with great inner drive, go much further than people with vastly superior talent. ~ Sophia Loren A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks hat others throw at him or her. ~ David Brinkley

3. A NEW INSPIRING 2 CD set to build your confidence and communication skills at work. CONFIDENCE AND COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR WOMEN AT WORK. Have you ever felt invisible at work, or not heard or respected? Do you find it hard to speak out at meetings; to stand up to difficult bosses or customers; or to manage a team of people you supervise or work with? Maybe you are already confident and simply want to polish your communication skills even more so you can shine in board or team meetings, bask in the regard you earn and get the credit you deserve. Whatever your situation, age or background there is something for every woman in the workforce on these CDs. Seven amazing women, led by award-winning communication specialist and emotional intelligence coach, Rachel Green, will help you boost your confidence and communication success at work. Hear their stories, learn from their experiences and gain their star strategies for work success. Click here for more details.

4. A 2 CD set especially to help you become a confident public speaker and presenter: CONFIDENCE FOR WOMEN IN PUBLIC SPEAKING: How to cure stage fright and develop more confident public speaking and presentation skills. Are you afraid to speak in public? Do you suffer from public speaking anxiety, panic or nervousness? Do you get stage fright with blushing, shaking, sweating, heart pounding, butterflies in your stomach or paralysis? Would you rather be a confident public speaker and presenter? Yes! Then discover how to develop more confident public speaking and presentation skills by: Listening to the expert commentary of Rachel Green, a dynamic, confident and highly sought-after public speaker; Hearing a series of shy, introverted and anxious women being coached by Rachel until their nerves melt and confidence takes over; Using the great public speaking tips given by a group of other women who have public speaking confidence. Let these breakthrough public speaking CDs stop your nerves and give you confidence, right now. This is unique material that's never been available before. They are FULL of practical tips that you can use for greater public speaking confidence. For only $49 they could transform your life and overcome your public speaking stage fright. Click here for more details.

Confidence Quotes Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing. ~ George Bernard Shaw Only as high as I reach can I grow, Only as far as I seek can I go, Only as deep as I look can I see, Only as much as I dream can I be. ~ Karen Ravn

5. There are FREE newsletters full of tips to give you total confidence. 29-Aug-2006, Number 188: Confidence - How to ooze with it. The commonest aspect of self-development for which I get asked for help is confidence. Being confident sure beats feeling intimidated, overwhelmed or nervous, doesn't it? For tips on how to become more confident, including when you speak in public. click here to read more. 16-Mar-2005, Number 154: Oozing with confidence - you can do it too. Do you knock your own confidence? Do you think of all the problems that might arise? Do you say negative things about yourself, to yourself? Do you train yourself not to do well? If you do, the good news is there are plenty of ways you can train yourself to do the opposite. To be confident rather than nervous. You can learn to be at your best. Click here to read the rest of the newsletter. 18-Aug-2004, Number 143: Confidence - How to get more of it. Confidence can be learnt. What we think, how we stand, what we do can all make a difference to our levels of confidence or nervousness. Feeling confident impacts on our performance at work, on our relationships, on our ability to gain friends. Having a confident sense of yourself when attending a job interview, dealing with a difficult person or presenting in front of an audience can help you succeed. Here are some tips on how to boost your confidence: click here to read more. 25-Feb-2004, Number 132: Developing your self confidence People vary in their levels of confidence. Yet being confident can be a big contribution to our happiness. Being confident can also influence how people interact with us. Being confident can help us in a variety of situations such as job interviews, parenting, presenting and so on. So how can all of us develop and boost our self confidence? Click here to read more. 7-Mar-2001, Number 63: Feeling Good About Ourselves What do you think about yourself really? Have you ever felt bad about yourself, thought you were no good, stupid or worthless? It seems from my discussions with people that many of us don't feel too good about ourselves. We might not tell anyone else about this but deep down ticking away is a grinding negativity. Does this matter? Yes! It can affect everything we do, the way we relate to other people, the extent to which we look after ourselves, our mental health, our relationships. It can affect us in many, many ways. So what can we do about it? Here are seven tips. Click here to read more. 06-Aug-2001, Number 72: Developing confidence and comfort. Do you lack confidence in yourself? Do you fear tasks such as public speaking and the associated possibility of rejection? Do you find that as you get older your body can be uncomfortable, stiff or inflexible? If so, you are not alone! The good news though is that there are ways to remedy these problems. Click here to read more.

6. Free tips to help you reduce your anxiety and nerves. 21-Jun-2001, Number 69 Overcoming Anxiety Anxiety seems to be a bit of a "hush-hush" topic in our society. It's as if anyone who admits to having "anxiety" is thought to be a bit crazy, someone who hasn't got their act together, or who has lost the plot! Why? Everyone gets anxious at some time or other. It's a natural built in protective mechanism to help us escape or become aware of danger. So here are some tips on managing anxiety Click here to read more. 10-Nov-2004, Number 149: Triumph over nerves. There go the butterflies again. I thought butterflies were beautiful insects that flutter about the garden. Maybe so, but when they have grabbed hold of our stomachs just before an important meeting, interaction or presentation, there is nothing pretty about them. They can paralyse us. Stop us from being at our best. Make us miss out on a key job. Keep us from speaking out. Don't let this happen to you. Don't be a slave to your nerves. There are many ways to ease nerves. We can take control. We can triumph over nerves. By doing this we'll have more chance to achieve all that we wish for. The techniques for easing nerves are coming up click here to read more.

Confidence Quotes You are the only person on earth who can use your ability. ~ Zig Ziglar As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~ Marianne Williamson

7. A lovely two CD set to help you calm your nerves and to manage your emotions confidently. How much more confident would you feel if your mind were relaxed, you were calm and your life were easier to cope with? Imagine anxiety reducing, the rush of life easing and your sense of confidence rising. This is what can be achieved by doing the gentle meditations and applying the ideas you'll hear on these 2 CDs. Only $45. ISBN: 0-9580272-2-6.

8. Two dynamic, entertaining and brilliant speeches, for your conference or seminar, to inspire you and your staff or group to a life of sparkling confidence. Imagine having a conference or event where the audience went away inspired to be more confident and knowing exactly how to do it. And having a high energy speech that is entertaining, dynamic and full of fun. Sounds great ... well that is the package you'd get when you booked Rachel to do one of these speeches for you. A. "Yes I can do it: Steps for sparkling with confidence - each day, every day." Inside you, and everyone other woman, is a beautiful confident person. Sometimes, as we go through life this inner confidence can get covered up so that we fail to sparkle to our full potential. Do you want to be more confident? Yes! Then Rachel will show you how. Drawing on the inspiring stories of the amazing Australian women in her confidence recording project, and from her own life, she will give you practical ways to boost your confidence that you can start straight away. Whether you want to be more confident in developing your business, managing your relationships, communicating with people, or overcoming problems ... there will be something you can take away and apply immediately. Don't let your confidence droop - bring out the sparkle! This high energy, entertaining and life-changing speech is ideal for: After-lunch, key-notes or plenary sessions. Target audience: Women of all ages and backgrounds. Numbers: No limits. Duration: 1.5 hours is best but it can be longer! Negotiable. Contact: +61 8 9390 1188 or E-mail B. Sparkling with confidence: For women at work. Inside you, and everyone other woman, is a beautiful capable person. Sometimes, as we go through life the inner confidence to be our best at work can get covered up so that we fail to sparkle to our full potential and our work suffers as a consequence. If a talented and capable woman feels inadequate, has a weak self-belief, or a lack of confidence she may underachieve or go un-noticed at work ... while others with confidence may do well and be appreciated more. Do you want to be more confident? Yes! Then Rachel will show you how. Drawing on the inspiring stories of the amazing Australian women in her confidence recording project, and from her own work life, she will give you practical ways to boost your confidence at work that you can start straight away. Whether you want to be more confident in managing clients, communicating with people, speaking out at meetings, standing up to intimidation, or overcoming problems ... there will be something you can take away and apply immediately. Don't believe that some people are born with confidence and the rest of us aren't. Confidence can be learnt. This life-changing speech will show you how you can feel confident, sound confident and look confident at work. It will help you get the confidence you need to do the things you want to do at work and the skills to help you do them well. Don't let your confidence droop - bring out the sparkle! Target audience: Women of all ages and backgrounds. Numbers: No limits. Duration: 1.5 hours is best but it can be longer! Negotiable. Contact: +61 8 9390 1188 or E-mail

Confidence Quotes You have to pretend you're 100% sure. You have to take action; you can't hesitate or hedge your bets. Anything less will condemn your efforts to failure. ~ Andrew Grove

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