40-65 year olds ... finding happiness
How are you feeling about turning 40, or approaching 50 or even getting to 60? For many of us it is a time that we don't like, at least at first. It causes us to reflect, to say "Where are we going?" or "What have we done with our lives?" Most of us would prefer to slow the progress of time, to stay young, to look the same. But most of all you probably want to be happy, don't you? Isn't that what we all are seeking?
And before I say any more, let me reassure you ... you can be happy over 40, 50 and 60, whether your hair is greying or your wrinkles increasing. And this page will help you find out how ... but that's later ...
Because you may be sitting there struggling with problems that you don't want. Many of us have unexpected problems arising, me included. I hope it helps you to know that you aren't alone. Some of us get made redundant, or our partners leave us, or we can't sleep. Or it may be even more fundamental than that, and we find our bodies are doing things that we wish they wouldn't. Whether it is osteoporosis, high blood pressure, arthritis, flab or weight gain, ... or even hairs in new and unwelcome places.
Sure, you'll have had issues to deal with before, but somehow it isn't the same, is it? Just when we were looking forward to having some free time our children come back home, or our parents get dementia, or we get sick. But the real difference is that we aren't as young as we used to be AND time can seem to be running out. And that can freak us out. Does it ever get to you?
I still want to reassure you ... you can be happy over 40, 50 and 60, even with problems. And this page, our free tips, and the book "Midlife and Happiness" will help you find out how ... but that's later...
Let me tell you first, what I mean about feeling that time is running out ... I am nearly 53 years old and in the last two years or so, my husband and I have bought a steep block of land that we are rehabilitating to make into a sanctuary for the local wildlife. And it came with a dud house with lots of potential, (as the real estate industry would describe it) which we are renovating from top to bottom. And I keep thinking, "Heck, we better hurry up or we'll never see this tree grow", or "What happens if one of us has a heart attack before we finish", "Or will we still be able to earn enough money as we get older to fund it all?" If I had been 30 when we bought the block I'd never have thought like this. But we've had friends die in their late thirties and forties, and now again in their 50s, and time running out is now a real factor in our lives. We may be asking the same questions as we did in our 20s, but the answers now have a different colour to them. Do you feel time is running out and you must make a go of it now, before it's too late? Or have yu already given up and think you are too old, or too tired. If so, now is the time to get some more spring in your step and dive into a future with happiness.
Happiness? Yes! Happiness is there for the taking, if you just know where to find it.
YES! Happiness over 40 is available! And you have many ways of getting it, if you know where to look.
Here is your first, free, bonus tip on finding happiness over 40, from the book "Midlife and Happiness."Happiness arrives over 40 when we do what is important.But how do you know what is important? Most of us spend all our lives being busy and doing what has to be done without ever asking ourselves this. And so happiness eludes us. One way to find out what is important is to ask yourself this question ... "If I only had 18 months to live what would I do with my time?" I ask myself this question whenever I have finished one major step in my life and it is time again to re-evaluate. You could do the same. Then the next step towards happiness is to work out a way to make it possible.
For example, one answer I had was to go and see all the aunts, uncles and cousins I had been close to in my childhood but I had barely seen since. And so I set about doing this. It wasn't easy especially as I decided I'd take my 80yr+ Mum with me and they all lived on the other side of the world. Once I had saved and organised it - it was an absolute high and the best thing I have ever done for my mum. And shortly afterwards my favourite aunt died only to be followed by one of my two remaining uncles, and now more recently my favourite cousin has died. How grateful I am I did what was important when I knew it mattered and I didn't put it off. This is where happiness is over 40 - in doing what is important. Now what is your answer to the question? |
The message is clear ...
Celebrate your age! Step into life over 40, 50 and 60 and accept it with zest. I don't care how old you are - be proud of it. If you are 42, 57 or 69 stand tall. Not everyone is lucky enough to make it to 40 or 50, so celebrate every year you are blessed with. And do it with pride.
Some of the great things about being 40 or 50 plus is that:
 | We can let go of some of the pressures of our thirties and twenties |
| We can find a greater acceptance of ourselves |
| We can stop worrying so much about what other people think |
| We can find a new sense of freedom |
| And a new confidence. |
| And best of all we can find peace and contentment, if we just know where to look for it. |
Here are tips, newsletters, courses and an inspirational book "Midlife and Happiness" to give you a zing in your midlife step, a sparkle in your eye and happiness in your heart.
So where will we start? Let's start with the biggest step first, reading the book "Midlife and Happiness: How to be happy, overcome obstacles and follow your dreams at midlife." Why start here? Because it could make a pivotal difference to your life ... some of our readers will tell you of their glowing results from reading the book, shortly; and it is rare and unique - you can't get it anywhere else.
The book "Midlife and Happiness".
So how can the book "Midlife And Happiness" help you find happiness? It is simple really - it helps you go inside the lives of other people your age, who've faced being over 40 and 50 and who've triumphed, despite all sorts of events happening in their lives. And their stories are filled with ideas as to how you can do the same. They are courageous and disclose all - these are not sterile, sanitised stories but gutsy descriptions of how life really is. Now what is really special for you, is that, just like you, they are not Hollywood stars, or rich nor famous, nor have they done anything that made the newspaper headlines, (fortunately!). Instead they are real people who live ordinary lives in inspiring ways. They are people that you and I can identify with, laugh with, cry with and come out on the other side with, and be motivated by. And once you know what you need to do and you have the motivation to do it - you are well on your way to lasting happiness, aren't you?
Who are these people I am encouraging you to get to know? There are 14 of them, seven men and seven women, from all walks of life, aged between 40-61. I am one of the women who has written about her life and how I overcame my issues to find a deep sense of lasting happiness.
The coverage given is extensive - here is a sneak preview of the kinds of areas that you, your friends and partners will be able to learn about and be inspired by:
| Finding a meaning to life |
| Sex and affairs |
| Reducing anxiety |
| Having fun as a 50 something new parent |
| Overcoming the empty nest |
| Coping with change |
| Running over 50 and keeping fit |
| Having happy relationships |
| Sailing around the world and beating cancer |
| Overcoming sleeplessness |
| Helping ageing parents |
| Nursing a dying friend |
| Finding out who you really are |
| Finding a better direction |
| Surviving separation |
| Finding greater happiness |
| Making the right decision, |
| Stopping being a workaholic |
| Developing a spiritual path |
| Doing what is important |
| Following your dreams, and more! |
There is something for everyone, men and women. Get it now and you'll have whole new conversations about it with the people in your life
252 pages. RRP: $34.95. (Australian).
Order NOW!
And you think $34.95 Australian is too much? How much is happiness worth? You'd spend more than that on a new dress only to get bored with it over a few months, or a new set of tyres for your car that wear out, or even a trip to the movies for a couple of you probably takes more than that and it's all over by the time you wake the next day ... How much would you be willing to pay to be inspired to change your life and to find happiness?
And in case you think I am kidding, here is a letter I got unsolicited from someone who had got the book ...
| "Since November I have been struggling with depression and loneliness. I have lived in Sydney for years and have now returned to Perth to find that everyone I knew has moved away, that everything has changed, that I have no group of people I can call my own and no-one knows I exist. I have to fight depression each day. And then I got to read your book. Your book was a cry for help answered. The relief to know I am not alone, the relief to know that others feel�think-experience much of what I do. Some of the pages I could have written word for word. Ah! the relief. I have cried with happiness and I have cried with relief. There is sun shining in my future again when once it was dark with despair." |
Order your copy now on our secure server. Click here to go to our book store ...
And the second step is to have a look at the specific tips that are relevant to you ... these are all free on the website for you ...
Now here is a second, free, bonus tip for you.
Happiness arrives over 40 when we focus on the good things that we have now that we didn't have at 20. |
40 plus The Tips
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Read about other people over 40 or 50. Find out what they think the best thing is about being 40 plus, and the worst! Discover their favourite hobbies, find out how they stay healthy, what inspires them, what their goals are for the next 10 years, and what they've achieved since being 40 plus.Send in your profile AND if you have your profile appear on this website it will be read world-wide by thousands.
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40 plus Newsletters: CONFIDENCE 4 U
Get the latest news and views on 40 plus issues, controversies and
energy boosters. A FREE e-mail magazine CONFIDENCE 4 U is available every fortnight and can be sent directly to your e-mail address. All you have to do is to send us your e-mail address and we do the rest for you. Topics include specific aspects on being 40 plus, and also material for people of any age on communication, emotional intelligence, personality, networking, relationships, and more. Those, which are specifically on being 40 plus, are also available here.
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40 plus Links
There are other web-sites available devoted to people in the 40 plus age group. Here's a list of some of the best ones. New ones are added as they become available.
RG.Com Pty Ltd has included these links with the best intentions in mind. However being linked does not imply that RG.Com Pty Ltd subscribes to the content included in these sites. It does not take Responsibility for the content or accuracy of any of the information they contain, nor does RG.Com recommend or endorse any specific organisation, product or service. Read with thoughtfulness and care!
General 40 plus Sites
| A Midlife Crisis NEW! JULY 2008. This site is far more than just on Midlife Crises - this site is full of articles, photographs and inspiring materiala about all aspects of 40-65, including happiness and health at midlife. UK based but applicable to all. |
| LifeTimeInfo.com Self Help The site aims to deliver FREE reliable, high quality information for real people with real life needs who are searching for information and solutions. The site encompasses six main areas - Self Help, Health & Fitness, Money, People & Relationships, Career & Business, and Leisure. There is free advice, free articles, free newsletters, free e-books, free e-courses, free software, meet the Gurus, learn about the classic texts, and more! You can see Rachel's contribution here. |
| 2 Young 2 Retire A site with a great attitude - ways to live fully after 45, with inspirational stories of people who've succeeded. The hosts founded the site because they had a "near-retirement" experience which convinced them that there was more to post-career life than withdrawing to a place in the sun! |
| Healthy Ageing A very useful Australian site that will find other websites and resources for you on many different topics relevant to 40 plus people, eg caring for an older person, health information ... an comprehensive resource. |
| Her Mentor Center. Inspiring stories, newsletters and expert mentors to help women across the bumps and hurdles of midlife transition. USA based. |
| I Don't Feel 50! Masses of information to keep people 50 plus on the ball and living living living... A UK site with international links. |
| In Her Prime Website for women over 40 - with links to several other useful sites, regular newsletter, features articles, guest writings ... USA based. |
| Midlife Dimensions Books, tapes and articles on midlife crises, depression and affairs - includes "Men in Mid life Crisis" and "Women in Midlife Crisis" by Jim Conway. Christian based. |
| Men at Midlife Strategies to beat the challenges of middle age. Things change for men at midlife - some things that used to be important don't seem to be any more, and others become more important. This site will show you how to not only how get through these changes, but make the second half of your life better than the first. |
| Midlife Mentor for Women Lots of Midlife information, research results, newsletters, reading lists and ideas for 40 plus Professional Women. Includes ideas on career change tools at midlife. Site of Ellen Ostrow. |
| Midlife Metamorphosis Explanation of midlife from a Jungian perspective with details of the Myers Briggs preferences. Sees midlife as a "dangerous opportunity" to become who you really are! |
| Men Web Has an article on rites of passage for men at Midlife. |
| Midmac Midlife Research An academic and research examination of Midlife across different cultures. Provides research updates, a bibliography, and plenty of information. |
| Moondiary Older women and what they are doing especially in regard to creating and expressing women�s culture. |
| National Association of Baby Boomers (USA) Extensive links to other sites including health ones such as the Mayo Clinic; libraries; and all sorts of general information. |
| Our Best Years Read the midlife agony column and learn how to deal with yours or your partner's midlife crisis, or read Mike Bellah's funny, practical or insightful columns. USA based. |
| Power Surge Amazing! Lots of chats with famous people about midlife women plus women's midlife health information, menopause information, chat rooms, newsletters, and much more. Superb graphics too! |
| Questia Over 70,000 books and articles on a variety of subjects including books and articles relating to Male Midlife Crisis. |
| Reflections on Aging A light hearted look at aging - it reminds us we are not to blame for getting older! |
| Saga Magazine for the over 50s. A magazine explicitly geared to the over 50s which doesn't treat us as seniors interested in pensions, yeah! It includes some good articles on famous people who are 50+ and even the adverts portray healthy 50 + doing things such as surfing! UK material. |
| See How They Grow - A Guide for Grandparents A UK site devoted to helping you be a superb grandparent! |
| Seniority.co.uk - the informative, fun and interactive online community created by and for people aged 50 (ish!). |
| Senior Women Information, newsletters, forums for women 50 years and over. USA based. |
| The Aging Quiz Got fears about getting older? Many of them may be based on myths and stereotypes - check out the accuracy of your knowledge on this great quiz! |
| The Older Woman's Network Australian site - encouraging power for women over 50 - inspirational and informative with regular newsletters. |
| US BOOMERS.com provides information to baby boomers on money, family, health, fun, and people. USA based. |
| Woman's Age For women over 50. Site of Jane Glenn Haas, USA based. Interesting stories. |
| William Bridges and Associates. Order books, read free articles, and complete self-assessments on coping with transition and change. Rachel found William Bridges book: "Transitions: Making sense of life's changes" very useful when coping with her Midlife changes. (You can read more about how in her book "Midlife And Happiness") |
Baby Boomer and 60s Culture
| 1949-1972 The Menzies Era Comprehensive and factual - packed with information on Australian "culture" between 1949-1 972, includes the weekly top chart hits in USA, UK and Australia, Menzies, Vietnam, cars, sport, books, television, radio ... refresh your memory ... remember those songs, those people, those events! |
| Baby Boomers Chat to other babyboomers, read what the doctor says, find out about the music... |
| Hippy Land Everything you ever wanted to know about hippies or how to be a hippie if you missed out first time around, there is still time. An extensive site, a good trip down memory lane too! |
| Sixties Central Pictures and details of the fads and fashions of the 1960's, the days of the mini skirt, the invention of the trouser suit for women, remember bell bottomed trousers? It's all here! |
Elderly Parents
| Carers WA This has been recently relaunched, with lots of information for people who are caring for a spouse, child or parent who is frail aged, chronically ill or who has a disability. Free kits can be ordered from the website, as well as much information on being a carer. |
| Council of Ageing: COTA If you want access to resources for elderly parents this is an extensive site of relevant organisations, information and websites throughout Australia and it provides information to links worldwide. |
| Resources on Ageing - from Council of the Ageing A list of internet resources on ageing from around the world. Ideal for 40 plus people looking after ageing parents or for anyone over the age of fifty-five years. |
| Senior Citizens Bureau Aimed at helping the mature adult maintain an active lifestyle - Texas based. |
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| The Best Is Yet To Come A CD of folk songs celebrating our older years. Easy listening by USA based musician Matt Watroba. It may make a great gift for elderly parents who need a lift! |
Menopause (male and female) and Health for 40 plus
| All About Arthritis Details on arthritis. |
| Australasian Menopause Society Lists menopause specialist clinics throughout Australia, New Zeal and, Peru and Switzerland! and has a booklet on understanding menopause that you can download. |
| Bones For Life with Ruthy Alon. A leading Feldenkrais practitioner has developed a significant programme for building up healthy bones and overcoming osteoporosis. She has now trained other Feldenkrais practitioners in her methods including many of us in Perth and Australia. |
| Dr Christiane Northrup Site of Dr Christiane Northrup author of The Wisdom of the Menopause. |
| Gold Cross Medical Centres - Andro Screen Centre. Male menopause experts with a test to see if you are suffering from one and suggested treatments. Originally UK based, now centres in Australia and USA. |
| Health 50+ BBC website on interesting health aspects for over 50s, UK based. |
| Male Menopause For men over 40. Based on only one book on male menopause but inspires men to their second adulthood. |
| Melbourne Women's Midlife Health Project Details of a major study into the health of midlife women - a cross-sectional study of 2000 randomly selected women aged 45 - 55 years and a longitudinal study of 492 pre-menopausal women through the midlife years and the menopausal transition. |
| Menopause: Myths and Medicine ABC Quantum TV special and website all about the menopause - lots of information. |
| Menopause Online Resources Extensive links to information on the menopause. |
| Menopause Web Resources Lots of information with up to date medical research, articles, chat, links and more. |
| Men's Health A comprehensive list and links on resources for men. |
| Midlife Passages Fascinating information on male and female menopause, endocrinology, how to live to 100, psychology, and lots of other well researched in formation, by three doctors. |
| Minniepauz Cartoons and a funny look at the menopause! Good for a laugh and to lighten the load. |
| National Osteoporosis Foundation (USA) One of the most straightforward and helpful osteoporosis sites. If you are 40 plus, now is the time to have your bone density checked - don't wait until you fracture. |
| Project Aware An excellent, clear and informative site on the symptoms and management of menopause run by the Association of Women for the Advancement of Research and Education. |
| The Andropause Society UK Aims to promote the exchange of research information and ideas about Androgen Deficiency in the Adult Male (ADAM) between health professionals, as well as to encourage education in the andropause, its consequences and its treatment. |
| The Fourth World Congress on the Ageing Male The Forth World Congress on the Ageing Male is being held in Prague, during February 2004. Here are the timetables and details. |
| The M Club For any woman approaching, in, or still recovering from, the menopause. This site could bring a smile to your face! |
| Wellness MD: Andropause - the Male Menopause Article by a Dr. K on the andropause, testosterone and testosterone replacement therapy. |
| Women's Health Interactive An array of different articles on health issues including up to date news bulletins on items of health interest in 40 plus women. |
There are also other links to other topics such as personality,
anxiety, meditation, sleeplessness and the Feldenkrais Method,
available on our
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