How to overcome your public speaking fears
A. Start to think like a confident speaker thinks.
This is the TOP TIP for overcoming your public speaking stage fright. You probably already know the symptoms of public speaking stage fright. Blushing, shaking, sweating, butterflies in your stomach, nervousness, pounding heart, fear, and more. The good news is that these symptoms can be reduced dramatically so you can be calm and relaxed when presenting and speaking in public.
What you think, imagine and do can increase or decrease your nervousness. Therefore, what you think, imagine and do can make you confident.
What could you possibly do that makes you nervous?
The commonest thing is that you spend your time saying negative things to yourself about how dreadful the experience will be, how many difficult questions you will get, that you'll go blank, that they are all looking at you, that they're out to trip you up, or even that you will trip up! Yes! I had one women I interviewed recently who was terrified of public speaking and she had convinced herself that she would trip up. Thinking like this paralysed her.
Do you think like this? Do you think that successful speakers think like this? No of course not. Such thinking makes public speaking so much harder.
So what can you do to overcome this kind of destructive, nerve producing thinking? You can start practising thinking like a confident speaker thinks, imagining what a confident speaker imagines and doing what a confident speaker does. What will you do?
Here are three steps you'll need to succeed.
- Know what you are thinking. What you think may well not be the truth. You don't have to believe it.
- When it is negative - challenge your thinking and ditch it.
- Substitute negativity with positive thoughts, images and memories.
How can you challenge your thinking? The woman who was scared of tripping up learnt to challenge her thinking. She asked herself where is the evidence that I will trip up? How many times have I tripped up? None. How many times have I seen other speakers trip up? None. How many times has Rachel tripped up as a professional speaker? None.
So where was there any evidence she'd trip up. There was none.
By challenging her thinking like this she came to the conclusion that her thinking was the only thing likely to trip her up! That she was thinking nonsense. That it was her thinking making her frightened not speaking itself.
Does it matter how you think? Yes! After changing her thinking, this woman was able to overcome only being able to present to three people to being able to sing Karaoke in front of a 100, really well!
When you say these kinds of negative things to yourself you are making your anxiety, panic or stage fright worse. Such thinking kills public speaking confidence.
Thankfully, it is possible to change this kind of thinking and think like a confident presenter. Start practising now. Or are you already thinking it's too hard? That's what you would think if you wanted to fail.
B. Read these top tips on how to overcome your public speaking nerves and feel more at ease next time you speak
There are a selection of FREE tips for you to read from our Personal Development page and in our "Confidence 4 U" E-magazines that will tell you how to stop your nervousness when public speaking.
Here are some of the relevant ones you can read and download.
Five ways to cure your public speaking stage fright. Click here to read them now.
Five easy ways to overcome nervousness in public speaking. Click here to read them now.
Newsletter 184 is on "Handling the pressure of public speaking". Click here to read it now.
Newsletter 149 is on how to "Triumph over your nerves." Click here to read it now.
Newsletter 137 is one man's account of how he overcame his public speaking nerves: "They tried to talk me out of speaking ... but once I'd got to my feet they were spellbound." Click here to read it now.
Newsletter 195 is on "Overcoming the fear of public speaking". Click here to read it now.
Newsletter 212 is on "How not to be afraid of public speaking". Click here to read it now.
Newsletter 214 is on "How to manage anxiety and nervousness - an emotionally intelligent approach". Click here to read it now.
C. Resources to help you.
1. OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING - FOREVER.
Do you fear public speaking? Are you anxious, nervous or worried whenever you think of speaking in public? Do you avoid it at all costs?
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Look at the audience and relax. Speak in front of 3 or 300. Turn your fears into confidence. For only $25 you can have this E-Book delivered straight to your e-mail box immediately.
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2. CONFIDENCE FOR WOMEN IN PUBLIC SPEAKING: Conquer stage fright.
This unique CD set featuring seven inspiring women all of whom demonstrate and tell you how to ditch your public speaking nerves and be confident in front of a crowd. How good is that?
They've proved that public speaking stage fright can be cured, and recorded the evidence on this CD series "Confidence for women in public speaking: How to cure stage fright and develop more confident public speaking skills".
Are you afraid to speak in public? The good news is that you don't have to be held back by it any more. They've shown that with a few easy-to-apply steps women (and men) with stage fright can overcome it and face a crowd with ease and confidence.
Do you want to take giant steps forward with your confidence in public speaking? Yes! You can! These CDs will show you how.
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3. HAPPY NOT HASSLED.
Settle your nerves and stay calm the night before facing the audience
I thought butterflies were beautiful insects that flutter about the garden. Maybe so, but when they take over your stomach just before an important meeting, speech or presentation, there is nothing pretty about them. They can paralyse you. They stop you from being at your best and prevent you from speaking out.
Don't let this happen to you. Don't be a slave to your nerves. There are many ways to ease nerves. You can take control. You can triumph over nerves. By doing this you'll have more chance to achieve all that you wish for in speaking in public.
Practice being calm the night before any speech so you sleep well. This very practical and easy-to-follow CD set "Happy not hassled" will show you how.
This CD is the one that most of our clients choose to calm their nerves, anxiety and tension, and to feel relaxed before a presentation.
"Happy not hassled" will not only help you stay relaxed while you speak in front of an audience, it can also help reduce anxiety, stress and worry before your presentation.
I am a professional speaker and I routinely use these exercises and meditations to help me soar with confidence at any presentation I give. I practice them the night before and they make all the difference to me.
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